This week at MOMs – Joy of Giving

This week we will bring our focus to others and prepare an activity to do with our kids that will end in donating items to an organization we support.

Remember to save your flyers and bring them along!

Also FYI: There is a traveling sale featuring beautiful, unique and fairly sourced products from Asia taking place on Wednesday October 7th from 12:30-6 and Thursday October 8th from 10:30-6 at Bethel Place (445 Stafford Street) in the multi purpose room.

From last week – sharing our genius ideas for organizing life!

Revisiting: The Joy of Daily Flow
Genius ideas:
For dealing with dirty rags:
  • hooks under the sink to let rags dry
  • wet pail with vinegar
  • mesh laundry bin
  • mesh toy basket from IKEA
For laundry:
  • hide it in spare room/basement/anywhere until you can deal with it
  • fold it right away while watching TV
  • fold on bed or dining room table so you have to put it away
  • have one stackable basket or laundry basket for each person and make everyone retrieve theirs from the laundry room
For clothes strewn everywhere:
  • if your kids don’t like wearing underwear and/or socks, have a basket for them at the front door so they can put them on before they go out and dump them in when they come home
  • have a main floor laundry basket
For front entry:
  • have hooks close to the entry but not in it if space is tight– be creative!
  • only put the stuff you use every day in the front entry
  • keep the “deep winter” stuff separate since you don’t use it every day
General clutter reduction:
  • individual toy baskets for each kid so they can only have toys that fit in that basket in the living room (the rest in the play room if you have one)
  • put a sheet set inside a pillow case so it’s easy to organize your linen closet and find the whole set (even if you put together mishmash sets)
  • have a library return bag on a hook so you can put books you’re finished in it right away
  • read Lifechanging Magic of Tidying Up
Meals:
  • create your meal plan so that obscure ingredients get used up throughout the week
  • make a special end of the week breakfast with extras so that you can snack on them when you’re running out of groceries: rice pudding, pancakes, waffles, etc.
  • create a list of your 20 favourite meals so that you can make your meal plan based on that
  • make supper (or at least prep the ingredients) before the witching hour starts (ie. before 2 or 3 pm)

This Week: Wind Up Potluck

Yep! I’m not lying, the title is correct. MOM’s is wrapping up for another season.

So come down for one last huzzah, bring a tasty snack if possible, and whoever was on bevies I hope you remember, because I don’t.

Also let’s come together and wish a warm fare-the-well to Elizabeth as she and her family move back to Kenya, and all the other Mom’s unable to return in the fall.

Remember:

Caregiver Tea
Thursday, April 9
7:00 pm

This Week at MOM’s: Crafting with Sarah

This week our guest star will be Sarah as she creates a wonderful craft.

You will need:

  • Cereal boxes
  • Sewing scissors
  • White school glue

Also this will be our last regular session, with the WIND UP POTLUCK next week. It’s going to be a free-for-all style so if pans of cinnamon buns show up or everyone brings fancy cheese it will be great. Maybe just second guess that veggie tray 😛

The next important date is the CAREGIVER TEA: Thursday, April 9th 7:00 pm. This is a child-free event so unless your little one is attached to your boob, leave the kids with Dad. There will be cheesecake so all the more incentive to come.

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D

This week: Part 2

Last week we had the lovely Gabrielle, Sarah and Desiree tell their stories of who they are before parenthood, and this week Ruth will tell hers.

We’re still working out some details, but we might have more stories, we might have an intellectual question. Come surprised.

Also don’t through out those cereal boxes. We’re going to need them for Crafting with Sarah.

D

Wrap up: Sexy Talk

A healthy sexual relationship is one in which the individuals involved are physically and psychologically CONTENT with the frequency and nature of the sexual encounters.

In terms of the types and frequency of sexual engagement, however, there is no recipe for a healthy sexual relationship. Peoples’ sexual desires, perspectives and histories vary considerably. What is positive and healthy in one relationship may have negative health impacts in another (Healthy Sexual Relationships – virtual medical centre)

HOW OFTEN?

According to General Social Survey, newlyweds have sex about twice a week, and frequency drops 10% per decade.

Forget surveys.. Frequency is completely dependent on the people in the relationship. So if once a day is what floats your boat (good on yah) the rest of us will be happy with 0-4 time a week and special occasion sex.

Frequency of sexual arousal and behavior can be influenced by any number of factors, including:

  • Age
  • Life circumstances
  • Physical and emotional health
  • Medications
  • Having children at home
  • Hormonal imbalance
  • Recent losses and grief
  • Substance use and abuse
  • Workload and stress
  • Relationship status
  • A history of previous trauma or abuse
  • Diminished physical attraction and a corresponding lack of intimacy
    • After babies we all have issues with our new bodies
  • Secrets and lack of relationship trust
  • Dealing with baggage

HOW CAN SEX STRENGTHEN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

A healthy sexual relationship requires vulnerability, effort, creativity.
Ultimately, for emotional intimacy to grow, each partner must be willing to meet the other’s deepest needs and protect the other’s greatest vulnerability. This produces an environment of trust, allowing each other to feel safe to share more. (Focus on the family)

Write it on your Honey Do List
Eat, sleep, exercise, finances, intimacy
Think of sex like exercise, you dread it, you do, then think “Wow, this is great, I should do this more often”

SO JUST DO IT!

WHAT KIND OF INTIMACY?

  • Holding hands
  • Kissing
  • Talking with candles
  • Making out (like teenagers), with no end game as a goal (maybe inform your partner first, you know mixed messages and all)
  • Try something new in the bedroom
  • Send the kids off for a sleepover and get a hotel room
  • Do it to prove you can and that you’re good at it
  • Great sex doesn’t just happen, keep doing it
  • Uninspired sex is sometimes good enough

There is light at the end of the tunnel. When you were first married you could/would do it any time, anywhere. Having kids makes the logistics of having sex complicated and limited. Then once your peeps are grown up and out of the house you can have sex anytime, anywhere.

Talk about it.
1) what did you like?
2) What didn’t you like?
3) what would you like more of?
4) what would you like to try next time?