This Week at Bethel MOM’s: Celebrating the Seasons

Vivian and Maggie will discuss how you can make your children away of nature and the changing seasons.

This is also our last session before our Wind-Up Potluck and the Caregiver Tea April 8th

Here is the book Sarah talked about last week and what points she took away form it.

Thoughts and Feelings: Taking Control of Your Moods and Your Life

By Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning

Composing Alternative Thoughts

  1. Shift focus– stop obsessing about the problem and focus on the positive or opposite of your negative thought. ex. if you are obsessing about things that need to be fixed on the house, shift your focus to what you love about your house.  If you’re feeling like you never get anything done, focus on what you do accomplish.
  2. Think in percentages– nothing is totally awful, but it might be 30% difficult, with 70% okay or good.
  3. Find evidence– if you’re saying to yourself, “I’m a terrible mother,” try to find evidence for that. Then try to find evidence of the opposite– that you’re a great mother because…
  4. Get perspective– if you’re making a bigger deal out of something than it really is, get some perspective. Talk to other moms, read about people in other parts of the world, and think rationally about how big of a deal this really is.
  5. Stop SHOULDing yourself! If you’re always thinking about how you SHOULD do this or that, change your expectations to be more flexible.  Best advice– instead of being the best at something, try to be the most balanced/healthy you.  Also, allow yourself to have your own values– you may not share the values of people you admire, and if you have examined yourself and know that you really don’t have the same values, let go of the guilt and the SHOULDs.
  6. Stop comparing!

~Danielle~

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