Thursday’s wonderful session was brought to you by Sandy. An hour and a half of just Sandy.
She started off by reading Romans 12 verse 1 and 2
1 And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all he has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice—the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him. 2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.
The message gleaned from these verses was that we are constantly changing, learning, and composting, which tied in perfectly to what Sandy was presenting.
So just a little about Sandy. She confesses that she is NOT an organized person. FAR from it. It just wasn’t her nature. She has worked hard and had to learn a thing or two to get to the level organization she’s at now.
First off you need to know what your personality type is. I did a quick Google search and Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) assessment and Enneagram Test comes up with thousands of results and free tests that you can take on your spare time (but let’s be real, who has that?!) Figuring out your personality is half the hurdle. Once you’ve done that you can better understand yourself, figure out how you deal with situations, understand your triggers and ultimately do better in your marriage, because it’s not You, it’s Me!
Once Sandy understood her personality, she had to overcome her fears. Being quite opposite of her husband in many areas of personality, there was a fear of getting lost as she explored changes in her way of doing things, specifically in becoming more of an organized person. Along with the fear of losing herself came the fear of “turning into her husband”, which leads into to trying to hold on to yourself even more, and skipping hand in hand came the fear of failure.
This is a lot to deal with, and it takes some time but once you accept who you are, and accept your fears for what they are you can start to have a deeper knowledge of yourself and love yourself and the incremental improvements you’re trying to achieve. (See how Roman 12 1+2 come in?) This all ties into continual learning and how Sandy feels God is continually composting her life and churning and changing with an end result being something wonderful. Also in knowing yourself Myers-Briggs states that you should intentionally do the things that don’t come naturally, so exercising the opposite. For Sandy that meant:
- Having a day planner
- Wearing a watch so your aware of the time
- Schedule things in advance
- Planning meals
- Being intentional
- Which leads to using your time better
- and eating better
This is the fun part. Handouts!
p and J
Categories for Annual Family Plan
Here are the sheets that Sandy handed out during the session. They are all word docs so you can adapt the weekly planner to your needs. The categories are just helpful ideas to get you started.
I do not have the meal menus but you can request one.
Now we’ll walk through Sandy’s Plans.
The idea behind the Annual Plan is to help communicate more effectively each persons wants, needs and ideas for the year. It was a gathering of ideas (in list form and on a spread sheet, with a chart because someone is super organized :P) and then being able to organize them into their relating categories and then setting priorities (ex. new car, car seat, paint the dining room, buy a house, enroll kids in swimming, washer on fritz, fridge is old = intend to purchase new appliance.) Once everything is on paper it allows you to remember things that you want to accomplish in the future (because none of us have the mental capacity all the time.)
Quarterly meetings are held to review the yearly plan and amend it as need be. The last meeting of the year would be a meeting to review the year and plan for the next one.
An hour or two on the weekend Sandy will go through her calendar’s for the week and schedule one thing for the morning, afternoon and evening. With it all on paper she can then see if there are too many things scheduled at one time and switch things around as need be. She can also look at her meal plan for the week and tweak it as necessary. If you look at the handout for the weekly planner there is also space for little notes, reminders, and categorized that suit your everyday life.
Sandy creates a two-week meal plan that she uses for 2 months. This works for her because her family doesn’t mind eating the same thing every-other week, and she knows that if she makes more and freeze it to be eaten 2 weeks later. With that she has MORE TIME to focus on other things than making supper. She also presented the positives of spending that extra few minutes ahead of time to make the meal plan because:
- She not scrambling to figure out what is for supper.
- This point leads into other things such as you can plan healthier meals, you’re not fishing around for quick things to cook.
- It decreases the chaos in the house because you are in control and your kids pick up on that.
- She doesn’t have to be creative RIGHT NOW! And doesn’t have to make a decision (remember she’s a P) because the decision is already made.
- She can be more intentional.
- She can buy larger quantities to save money.
- Create freezer/crock pot meals.
- She knows what is planned for the week so she doesn’t have to keep running out to “pick something up.”
- Save time/use time more efficiently.
- Practice, Practice, Practice.
- Your eating the same things 4 times so there is the opportunity to tweak the recipe each time and make it better.
- You become good at making certain things.
- Your kids have the chance to get accustomed to new foods.
- A rhythm is created. And guess what? YOUR KIDS CAN HELP!! It should be an age appropriate task but they can help with prep, and it’s a great way to get them involved.
Don’t get overwhelmed when it comes to meal planning, because it CAN get overwhelming with the millions of options out there.
Just some example.
Monday – Pasta
Tuesday – Rice
Wednesday – Soup
Thursday – Potatoes
Friday – Special
You then fill in the blanks from there. You can also tailor it to your dietary needs. For example Sandy tries to have 2 meals a week that are meat free.
Hopefully this longer than normal post have given you the tools to feel in control when nothing else in life really is.
Some of the literature Sandy mentioned:
Annemarie owns both book and will lend them out. There are similar ideas for a homemade planner here by the author of Organized Simplicity.